Cool Mom vs Responsible Mom
We all know those "cool moms". They are the ones who would check their kids out of school because their kid slept in. These moms would get upset at the teacher when their child was failing a class instead of getting upset with the child, or let their child drive the car with other friends in it when they didn't actually have anything more than a learners permit. These moms would make their kid's bed and clean their room. They would "rescue" their child before anything bad could happen to them and then if something bad DID happen to them they would blame anyone but their child. These moms wouldn't allow room for consequences or punishments and would give their child all they needed and wanted without the child ever having to earn any of it. Often research has shown (google it barbara) these children grow up insecure and unstable. They haven't learned for themselves how to overcome hardship or that there are consequences to their actions.
Then there are "responsible moms". This was my mother, thank goodness. I knew she loved me because she allowed me to learn and grow. She didn't step in and control every situation. My Mom didn't yell at my math teacher when I wasn't doing well in math, she didn't confront my basketball coach when I didn't start as Point Guard for a game, and she didn't always drive me to school if I missed the bus, I would have to walk (which didn't happen often because I knew from experience that she meant it!). I never questioned my mothers love for me, NOT ONCE, and I mean that 110 percent. I've always known she loves me ESPECIALLY when she allows me to figure things out for myself and doesn't step in to "save" me in every situation.
Obama is a Cool Mom. Romney is a Responsible Mom. This is NOT to say that Obama is a bad person. I am not one of those extremest who believes that Obama is an illegal immigrant who wants to take over the world. I do believe though, despite what a few (a very few) of my friends think, that there are some key differences between the two candidates. The differences expand way beyond what I am talking about here, but for me I see Obama as a Party Mom and I want a Responsible Mom.
Obama is a Cool Mom-Goes to all the talk shows, makes the right jokes, says the right things, has all the "cool friends" ie. Hollywood support. He knows how to speak to the people who don't check the facts. He wants to "save" all of his struggling children before we learn on our own. He wants to provide us with all of our needs AND our wants instead of allowing us to be self sufficient. That's why so many people LOVE Obama. Many of us feel entitled and many of us LOVE having things handed to us. Sure as a child it's nice to be handed a brand new toy you've been wanting forever, but how much cooler is it to earn that toy yourself? How much more special is something if you've put your own sweat and tears into earning it?
About the Auto Bail out, just to set the record straight (and Obama asked you to check the record and the facts...but did you? Or did you just believe him?) Romney said, "It is not wrong to ask for government help, but the automakers should come up with a win-win proposition." (You can read his whole speech here. Don't read what other people are saying he said, read what he actually said, http://www.nytimes.com/2008/11/19/opinion/19romney.html?_r=0). Obama claimed that he said the government should not help at all and in any way. This simply was not true. Then he told you to check the facts. Well, there they are. Party Mom, wanting to save his children, Responsible Mom wanting to help his children by helping them learn for themselves, even if it is the hard way.
There are so many other examples, but in an effort to make sure I don't offend anyone I should probably refrain.
The point is that while Cool Mom may mean well, and may be a great person, research has proven the Responsible Mom raises structured children who are well balanced because they had to endure and go through hard times and learn how to be self sufficient. Both Moms love us. But as a friend stated in Facebook feed, "Guys, Obama and Romney, they are both great" I agree, they might both be great people, but I choose the Responsible Mom over the Party Mom any day. My blurb here is not about whether Obama is a bad person who is an extremest or not, it is about who is the better man for the job as our President and to that I say thanks Mom, for being Responsible Mom. Because of my first hand experience about how important it is to have a Mom like you, I will be voting for a Responsible President.
You can agree or disagree with this post. If I have any facts wrong you can set them straight. The truth is, it doesn't really matter does it? I have done my research beyond fox news or CNN. I have looked at the facts not the blind and often untrue statements and I have made my decision.
***warning-this part is really just to get something off my chest and isn't that relevant to the rest of my post...sorry
I have learned my lesson about healthy debates. They are NOT to be had on a Facebook feed, especially if you are stating your opinion which opposed that of the original poster because then all his/her cousins and friends and family gets on and chews you out just for respectfully disagreeing. People like it when you comment on their posts but only if it's in agreement with their bias statements. In this argument I was having about Health Care on FB I simply stated that in my experience (while I recognize the system is NOT perfect and does need major help) I was satisfied with the care given to my daughter in the NICU and instead of paying over 200,000 dollars I only had to pay 5,000. I was happy with that! I understand not everyone has had my experience and I can't say I've always been 100 percent satisfied, but in this instance I was grateful for my private insurance and for the way the hospital worked with us and provided excellent care. The response by a friend to that comment was something like, "Wow, I find it so funny that we both come from wealthy families and yet you still had to pay as much as 5,000." What? What the heck does that mean? If you're for Obamacare (which he was) then shouldn't you be in favor of the rich paying more? I should have asked him to clarify but I refrained when I realized we were not having a healthy and respectful debate. One comment on the feed said in all seriousness, "I can't understand who wouldn't want free Healthcare?" Well that's when I realized that many of the people in the discussion didn't even have the concept of what Obamacare was! I was accused of getting all my facts from Fox news (which I never watch) but it seemed to me that most the Obamacare supporters on that thread saw only a "gimme" that we would all have free healthcare and the world would be a happier place. Obama has said multiple times "IT IS NOT FREE HEALTHCARE!". To this day it bothers me that I don't understand what my friend's comment meant about my family being rich (especially since my Dad's wealth had nothing to do with my little family of 3. It was OUR bill to pay, not my Dads) I should ask him, but really I should probably just let it go.
